Dating someone in the same company
However, if the relationship ends with hurt feelings, then what was acceptable behavior before might not be post-breakup. Personal feelings often spill over into the work place and can cause problems at work for the two of you, as well as for others. When your routine is work-sleep-work, going out to date does not seem like a real option for many. Discuss how you will handle the possibility of accusations of favoritism or preferential treatment.
For others, at an after-work-event for the first time they see a relaxed, funny, or witty side of a coworker that suddenly makes that person attractive. Behavior like making light physical contact, joking in a slightly inappropriate way, or sending somewhat racy emails may be fine though unwise if someone is comfortable around you and likes you.
And, well, if you want to ask if you're mature enough for this, if you can't have an honest discussion about the issue, then chances are you're not. If you do, then ask yourself if office gossip will bother you. You can allow it, with written disclosure.
First of all, Alex can find out if the company prohibits coworkers from dating. You certainly can ask your boyfriend to submit your resume and put in a good word for you. Discuss telling your supervisors.
Ask others about the potential partner. Just last month, Gary Friedman, the chief executive of Restoration Hardware, stepped down in the middle of the company's public offering.
When you get to that stage, your boyfriend and you can discuss whether working together is a good idea. Sometimes work-related decisions are made for reasons that relate to work and the success of the department or company.
You might find someone who was a former friend and lover becomes a career enemy. Alex can't give a professional recommendation, as we haven't worked together. An employee could even make a case for unlawful retaliation if he or she receives a poor performance review from a former lover or if a co-worker receives a better evaluation from his or her boss.
If you're lucky, you'll at least get an interview. Be sure neither of you is on the rebound, and both of you are ready for a mature relationship. Dating your boss carries a high risk of becoming an exploitative or preferential relationship, or of appearing to be a relationship at risk for harm or favoritism. Many companies have policies on office dating. You have to define and often describe the conduct you want to prohibit.
Assuming there are no restrictions against romance at this particular company, then you should apply for the job as normal. There are a few different ways to manage this liability. For others, they have very specific areas of interest or expertise in both their work and personal life, are so work settings allow them to meet people with these same areas of interest. Friedman was not married, so there was no affair.
So apply for this position, as well as for other jobs. Generally, policies cover not only employees, but also contractors, vendors, suppliers, manufacturers, and the like. His team supports the back end of the data systems I may end up using, so we would likely have at least some contact on the job. Real life makes for awfully uncomfortable meetings when the people sitting across from each other have hard feelings toward each other.