Be honest with yourself about this

Dating the same guy twice upon a time

After seeing a succession

Or you cross paths with your former dating partner at a party, a Shabbat dinner, or a business conference, and you realize the attraction's still there. Danny had the qualities she was looking for and she really cared about him. You might have had a devastating break-up, or perhaps you both agreed that things weren't working out. They may have receded from your memory, but they won't magically disappear in real life.

An insightful therapist helped her work through her feelings of resentment, distrust, and fear, and in time Melissa felt ready to date with a view toward marriage. He's heard that Sharon, who broke up with him a few years ago because he wasn't ready to move forward, would consider dating him again if he really has become serious about getting married. Twenty-seven year old Tina is more worldly and self-confident than the unsophisticated small-town Tina who dated Craig four years ago. Ask yourself what's happened in your life since your break-up.

Your conversations can

After seeing a succession of roommates develop close relationships and get married, Melissa decided to confront whatever was keeping her from having a relationship. Your conversations can be more focused and purposeful and you can feel comfortable enough to have fun together.

While you can't expect to pick up where you left off, you'll probably know enough basic information about each other to skip the uncomfortable first stage of dating. The reason you broke up may not be relevant any more. And if they're still present, they'll probably be the reason you break up a second time. Life circumstances change and people change.